And Why I’m Starting Over
ometimesit’s not about trying to fix something that’s broken. Sometimes it’s about starting again and building something new. Something better”
Your very first foray into the blogging world can be pretty daunting. I know it was for me. Seriously, though. Putting together an essay and hoping for a decent grade is one thing, but putting your writing out into the world? That’s a whole different level.
Since I was way too worried about what people might think, I played it way too safe. I made sure that nothing in my posts would offend anyone, and stayed away from any kind of content that had even a remote chance of doing anything but encourage my reader.
I’ve heard it said that when you try to please everyone you please no one.
Hello, people pleaser here!
And yeah, it doesn’t really work. Not in the real world (it’s literally impossible to please everyone) and certainly not in the online space.
So I am here to tell you WHY I killed my blog (that I spent an entire year focused on
building) and why I am excited to start over.
1. It Wasn’t Authentic
Sure, I gave good advice. I put forth some insights that were really helpful, and people even liked my content!
But I was hiding.
I was hiding my incredible gifts and creativity behind what I thought I was supposed to be doing.
Just like I do in the real world.
I started a “working mom blog” because I’m a mom. I kept finding myself posting content that was more work related than mom related, but instead of realizing that I should allow myself to go down the path I was being called, I kept forcing myself back to subjects that really don’t spark my passion.
I hate the thought of failing, and for a long
That is SO NOT TRUE!!!
As soon as I decided that being true to myself and changing direction was a success instead of a failure, my entire outlook changed.
I am confident that by following my heart, I will be able to educate and inspire others in a meaningful way.
How is that a failure?
2. It Wasn’t My Best Work
Just like I hate admitting defeat, I also hate admitting that I didn’t put my best effort into something.
It makes me feel icky.
But the most important thing about being authentic is being totally (and sometimes painfully) honest.
So, yeah, I put out crappy content. I half-assed my blog posts, my social media, and my graphics. It was on my to-do list, so I did it. But I didn’t put my heart into it.
The worst part?
It was TOTALLY obvious.
Here I was on Facebook giving out incredible feedback, encouraging my peers, and coming to the rescue with just the “thing” that would make it all better
But if any of those friends thought they would find similar content on my website, they would be sorely disappointed.
I was doing a disservice to those who I connected with by focusing more on the actions I was taking than the results of the work I was doing.
3. It Wasn’t Making Me Happy
I started my blog as a side hustle.
A “fun thing” to do, with the hope of one day turning it into an income source for my family.
For months, I worked on branding, automation, website design, and pumping out content (the half-hearted stuff I told you about earlier).
I am not a graphic designer nor a website developer. I am not a lot of things – but I thought that I HAD to be them in order to turn this side hustle into a success.
I also wanted everything to be PERFECT.
Yeah, I know. I know because I drove myself absolutely crazy trying to be a professional EVERYTHING instead of simply focusing on the things I am good at… and allowing the others just be good ENOUGH.
Why I’m Starting Over With A Brand New Blog
Here’s the thing:
I TRIED to fix my other blog. I really did. I tried for the last few months and wasted a TON of time.
Until one day I realized that if I was trying for a fresh start, then I needed to use a clean slate.
No amount of reformatting was going to put the level of authenticity into my posts that I really want to deliver.
No graphic was going to convey all of those feelings that I left out of my writing.
And when you build on a broken foundation, you are limited in your ability to build something good. It won’t be as strong as it could be. It won’t be as big as it could be.
So I’m starting over.
And I’m really glad you’re here.